Relationships

[onewheeled999Noo! They be stealin' my bucket!]

Last night, the breakup with my long-distance girlfriend was made 100% official.

See, ever since we broke it off two months ago, we've both kept the idea in the back of our minds that it's only temporary, that in a few years, when we grow up and understand our own lives better, we can get back together and be happier than ever.

But we've recognized how unhealthy that is, especially when she has a new boyfriend that isn't exactly pleased to find out how close she is to her ex that still has yet to get over her. So she told me last night that we should stop talking for a while, just to ease his nerves and give me a chance to fully move on and learn to live without her playing a huge part in my life.

I totally understand the motive behind this, and agree that it's absolutely for the best of all three of the people it affects.. but that doesn't change it from being one of the hardest things I've ever been through. Ashley was the first girl I've loved, and while there's a high possibility it may have just been that young, stupid, "NUBUDY HAZ LUVD LYK USSS!!! <9" thing, it doesn't change the fact that she was so important to me.

But there's nothing I can do now, except move on. Here goes nothing.

[grrtthe ghost seems to think there is a "Donkey Fairy"]

^ Good luck! At least it sounds like things were broken off in the best way possible, without any fights, which is always a great thing!

I'm kind of in a big predicament. My best friends girlfriend wants to leave him for me, and tried coming on to me this weekend.. Sorta completely clueless...

[SamanthaMc92This B&M donkey is so smooth!]

^ DON'T DO IT BRO! It will NOT end well.

Think of it this way, how would you feel if it was the other way around and you were the one with the girlfriend that you loved and she left you and got with him.
I mean if you're going to go for it, you should come to the realisation that you're most likely going to lose your bestfriend.
Who's more important, this chick or him?

Coming to think of it, you should be telling you're bestfriend that his girlfriend is trying to get with you behind his back! She obviously doesnt wanna be with him. I hate girls that do things like that. They're NOT good peoples.

[grrtthe ghost seems to think there is a "Donkey Fairy"]

Well I've dealt with it the other way around.. with him doing it to me.. lots of times. I've survived. And he knows and we're still best friends.. Talked about it and all. It's a closer friendship than most people can probably understand. The circumstances it were brought up under weren't too ideal, and she really isn't trying to create problems, and never has before. She's actually a nice girl, and I'm a good judge of character.

The real problem now is that I'm kinda getting screwed over. Though I haven't done anything wrong I'm sorta getting the shaft... as usual. I've sacrificed a ton for my friend, and he's not grateful for it at all.

My friend should be asking himself the same thing on who's more important.. It's also high school. And relationships rarely involve love, life still goes on, he's not going to be crushed.

Gosh I'm going from confused to bitter..

[A.J.Counts I305 as 32 credits...]

Dude, you're seventeen. I turn twenty-one in just over a month and I haven't even had a single girlfriend yet. You have plenty of time.

[grrtthe ghost seems to think there is a "Donkey Fairy"]

This is my point! It's high school and it really shouldn't matter what the hell happens.. right?

[A.J.Counts I305 as 32 credits...]

Well now, I wouldn't say that. I run into old high school buddies all of the time. There are some things that people forget and some things that they don't; it's just human nature.

I've experienced plenty of instances where "I get close", but ultimately I prefer to be the "good friend" because it means I can be counted on to be there when it counts; and that's all I care about. I'll have my time.

[grrtthe ghost seems to think there is a "Donkey Fairy"]

I'm not so worried about dating her.. I just don't wanna end up in the shitter cause of all of this, or for her to. And my brain is saying assert your position. But my heart is saying don't ruin things. I'm currently trying to sort it all out, maybe a third of the way there. But if it happens again.. Ugh, who knows. It's a matter of character. I'm trying to go against mine and it's proving rather difficult.

[onewheeled999Noo! They be stealin' my bucket!]

Ooookay, I'm struggling to think of a way that this situation could be more complicated.

I'll just say that Ashley, my long-distance ex, broke up with her new boyfriend this week. In the hour-long phone call we just had to ease her scrambled feelings, we essentially rekindled our feelings for each other, but agreed that we can't do anything about it just yet, as some more things have yet to be figured out. And there are some things that would make getting back together really uncomfortable, to say the least. (update 4/21:) And now my parents revealed that they didn't like her, nor did pretty much anyone, which baffles me.

It's all totally up in the air right now, and I have absolutely no idea how it's going to play out.. I guess we'll see in the next week.

[onewheeled999Noo! They be stealin' my bucket!]

Welp, it's over. And you know what? I'm okay with it.

Our relationship wasn't anywhere near healthy, looking back. I expected too much of her in a high-stress situation, and the incredibly low frequency of seeing one another was miserable. And really, we both only gained from this relationship. I helped her through some really tough times, and she helped me mature as a person and learn how to treat a girl right. We may have promised it would last forever, but oh well, it's a mutual promise-break. No need for any regrets. As for what happens after this, I'll leave it to 9:00 News. (warning: high volume!)


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